You couldnt make it up

Since I last wrote on here, I've been in holiday to Cyprus which was just the tonic needed. However, since returning, my husband has been diagnosed with lung cancer. They say they have caught it early and are positive. He is going to have radiotherapy and chemo, so we are both going to be on it. My daughter is now overdue regarding giving birth to her first child.

 I just cannot get my head round it. Both of us, mine being incurable and if I'm honest I don't think you really survive lung cancer. I keep thinking of the kids although they are 30 and 28, to loose both parents its not right.

 

  • He's not too bad, but being a typical man!!!!!!. I'm suffering today from mine on weds, but f!or some reason have been very tearful this time, which hasn't happened before. Let's hope tomorrow will be better. 

    Thank you for thinking of us. X 

  • Morning Tonim

    Just read your latest post and wanted to send you both virtual hugs. Not surprised that emotions are all over the place (has to leak out sometime!) and hope you have an easier day today.  Jules x

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    A typical man? - I dont know what you mean haha!  Glad it went ok.  I normally hit a low around the 4th day so I would imagine you are well into the side effects from Weds bless you.  Hope you have asked some mates to do a bit of cooking for you - please look after yourself!  Much love xxxxx   

  • My so called mates sort of fell to the way side when it first came out I had cancer. I have one friend you drives me to chemo bless her, and an amazing daughter.

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    Wow that must be hard to take but its something I hear often where friends are concerned.  I have had two friends who surprised me by backing away and feeling that a text once a month is 'being a good friend' but everyone else, especially work colleagues, have been fantastic.  I wish I understood how people can just disappear when a friend so obviously needs a hand?  Wish I lived near you - I would bring you all sorts of things, eventhough I am a rubbish cook haha!

    How is your daughter and Jaxon doing?  Is she enjoying being a Mum?   I understand how difficult it is having this disease when we think of our children Tonim - I can cope with everything that is thrown at me but when it comes to thinking of leaving my son and daughter the barriers go up and the tears roll.  Its really hard.

    Hope you and hubbie arent feeling too poorly. Always here for a chat if needed x

     

  • My daughter's doing really well. My son's just texted me pictures of his new car. I totally get it with the kids, that's what upsets me, the thought of them and the grandkids.

     

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    Gives us a great incentive to keep going but I definitely empathise with you on that one!  Really glad to hear Mum and baby are doing well.  Good news about the new car too.  Our son and DIL (and dog) have to been to stay with us this weekend which has been lovely - had a walk by the sea which was rather windy! Glad I left my wig at home! Speak soon x

  • The idea of leaving the kids is what upsets me the most too.  Mine are only just starting out in life - 2 away at college, my youngest just about to turn 15.  I'm hoping I'm still going to be around for his 18th.

    And then I remember that my Dad's Mum died when he was only 7.  And people do cope, and they grow up and get on with life and that experience just becomes part of who they are.  And I look around at others and think how lucky I've been to have known my chldren for as long as I have.  In the midst of all the pain and heartache and fear, you just have to count your blessings and focus on the positives.  20 odd years ago I was told i wouldn't have any children and I cried for a year for the life I thought I would never have.  And then along came 3 babies (completely naturally!).  

    I aim to be around for my kids for as long as I possibly can.  Stay strong. xx

      

  • Loulou, what a wonderful way of looking at life, very insightful.  You are right, my children are in their 30s and 40s but their dad died 30 years ago and they have grown to be happy, professional people with families to be proud of.  They will never forget their dad and talk of him often.  At least you have your children who I feel must love you dearly and I am sure with your attitude you will be with them for many years.x

  • Toni, thinking of you and hoping you are feeling emotionally better now. On top of everything else its awful when we feel weepy too!  Hope your husband is doing well and coping. x