Hi

Just wanted to welcome you to this supportive forum though none of us would choose to be here.  There will be many reading this and will relate to your fears about your Mum's illness and its so very sad for her, your Dad and yourself to have to be facing this  You are so young but a credit to your parents in how you have written your post. How you think you should react; well it is different for everyone (I am a lot older but still struggled with the emotional fallout when my husband was diagnosed with a terminal diagnosis and was, like you also scared and unsure how to face what was to come).  I did find talking on the forum helped and it sounds like you have a good relationship with your Dad and if you can talk to each other this will be a comfort to you both. Your Mum may not be able to respond to you how you would like but talking to her, telling her how you feel about her, your day to day life (keeping doing what you feel you can with family and friends as this will help you cope at times of sadness).

I think you will now be on school holidays but hope that your school teachers were aware of your home situation.  They will understand how difficult it will be concentrating on your school work/exams and I am sure if  you talk to them on your return they can assure you that there is help available (they can also guide you through what assistance there is).

If it would be additional help to talk to someone you can call the nurses, Mon to Fri 9-5 on the number given on this page (free from UK landlines and most mobiles).  There is also another website called Ripp Rapp which is for young people to talk to each other who find themselves facing cancer in the family.

Never hesitate to come and share your feelings here if you wish as, no matter what your age, just writing about things helps offload. Sending a virtual hug.Jules54

hi ..

When i was reading your post it reminds me of my mom.It was 3 months ago when we found out that she has cervical cancer. It really makes me feel sad and worried about her. I cried a lot and  can't focus in my job. But I always tell to myself that i need to be strong especially for her. I always call her on the phone to make sure that she is ok. Always joke at her . Because when i heard she is laughing i feel very happy .Our life here is not permanent so we need  to accept the fact that all the things in the world is just a temporary . Just enjoy the life that God gave to us .Love the people around you and value them.Just wanna gave you and your mom  a hug . Just stay strong .