Impact of mums cancer on me

My mum is in her last few weeks and months of life. there are so many feelings I could talk about but the thing I would like to share, and see if others have experienced this too, is a sense of terrible depression about my life. My work seems so pointless and unrewarding, and I would like to resign so I can spend some time with my mum before she goes, but I'm very afraid to do something so drastic which would also be very difficult financially. I'm also afraid of being dragged under my depression. Perhaps mostly I'm afraid of not spending enough time with her before she goes ( she lives in a different city so it is hard). Have others had a life crisis triggered by terminal cancer in a loved one? I've just turned 40, which is also relevant! 

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    Hi Loubs .... I am sorry to hear about your Mum's illness and realise how difficult this is for all of the family.

    Facing such a crisis often makes us re-evaluate our own lives in all sorts of ways, so I am sure how you are feeling is natural in the circumstances.  I dont know if you have family ties of your own in the city where you are currently living but if you dont, would it be possible for you to think of getting employment nearer your Mum?  Or maybe if you talked to your employers and explained your situation they would agree to you taking compassionate leave or a sabbatical so that you could spend some time at home with her? It is a difficult but only you can decide what course of action is the best for you, your Mum and your family at this moment in time.

    If you feel that your depression may worsen, then it would be wise to seek help from your GP who will be able to help you through this.  Also the McMillan Nurses (normally contactable through your local hospital) will offer you advice regarding financial issues should you decide to resign and offer you emotional support.

    Please let us know how you and your Mum are doing x.