Negativity

Hi everyone, Its been a month since I had a piece of my lung removed that contained 2 small tumours. The tests have shown that it was secondary from the bowel cancer. The operation itself was a success,and so I've been feeling a lot more upbeat and positive, that is until today after a meeting with my oncologist.

Her words were, you know the cancer is going to come back and will need treatment.

I am booked in for a ct and petscan in a couple of weeks and I know it could show up other spreads, but the oncologist seems to think that there will be other secondarys.

My daughter came with me and she even commented on how negative the oncologist was.

Is she right to be this negative? Am I living in some sort of denial to even think I may have a chance of living more than a couple of years?

Now not been able to sleep and feel very down.

  • Hi Tonim,

    Have you always had this consultant? 

    I have had three and each of them has always been positive and greets me with a smile even when they had bad news. 

    These days they are very direct and honest, but that does not mean they need to be negative. If this consultant is the same next time perhaps you can ask and try and be moved over to a different one.

    I wish you all the best.