Hi Janna,can I just start by saying I am so sad for you and wish you my best. Cancer is such a clever and awful diesease.  I am 36 and my mum 66. I can relate to what you are going through even though I have had my mum a bit longer.  My mum had Lung cancer in 2013, they treated her curatively with chemo radiation. And it made her so I'll it was awful to watch. But it did the trick, they operated removed half her lung,  5ribs and her lumph nodes. She had no evidence of diesease after that op in 2014. One year on and it has recurred in her collarbone. Now they have said it is inoperable and aggressive. She is no longer curative and any treatment is life extending. They will try some chemo and send her for a possible clinical trial. I'm so sad I feel devastated and can't come to terms with it as she looks so well and is fit despite it all. She is in a lot of pain with her shoulder and the thought of her dying inevitably is killing me. What's worse is not knowing how long she has and not knowing how her illness will progress. I'm so confused and am dreading the coming year.  I know she has anywhere from 6 months to a year depending on treatment but her pain is worsening by the day. So I just don't know. Sometimes I see some people have trials and are still kicking about a couple of years later. I hope this is her case but they hve ave said its aggressive so I iust don't know.  Thinking of you Janna and your mum and family x 

Hi Janna,can I just start by saying I am so sad for you and wish you my best. Cancer is such a clever and awful diesease.  I am 36 and my mum 66. I can relate to what you are going through even though I have had my mum a bit longer.  My mum had Lung cancer in 2013, they treated her curatively with chemo radiation. And it made her so I'll it was awful to watch. But it did the trick, they operated removed half her lung,  5ribs and her lumph nodes. She had no evidence of diesease after that op in 2014. One year on and it has recurred in her collarbone. Now they have said it is inoperable and aggressive. She is no longer curative and any treatment is life extending. They will try some chemo and send her for a possible clinical trial. I'm so sad I feel devastated and can't come to terms with it as she looks so well and is fit despite it all. She is in a lot of pain with her shoulder and the thought of her dying inevitably is killing me. What's worse is not knowing how long she has and not knowing how her illness will progress. I'm so confused and am dreading the coming year.  I know she has anywhere from 6 months to a year depending on treatment but her pain is worsening by the day. So I just don't know. Sometimes I see some people have trials and are still kicking about a couple of years later. I hope this is her case but they hve ave said its aggressive so I iust don't know.  Thinking of you Janna and your mum and family x 

Thank you for all your replies. It really helps hearing other stories. My heart goes out to you all. Cancer is just so awful.

 I do feel like I am never going to get through this. I do wonder how an earth I am going to cope without her. 

The nurse pulled my Dad aside yesterday and told him the family need to be on standby now. She is going to go any day now. She is totally out of it. Every day I say ' I just cannot believe this is happening'. My life feels so surreal. I really feel for my poor Mum going through this. It just isn't fair. 

Thank you for all your replies 

Janna 

Xx

Oh Janna, it must be awful, so sorry for your sad news I can only hope it happens peacefully as possible