Hi Karlamc

I am sorry to read about your aunt. It is so difficult as there is not a lot we can do at times like this except to be there for them. You are already doing all you can and I am sure your aunt is grateful to you for the care you are showing her. This evil that is cancer doesnt just affect the patient, it spreads it web to include family and friends and people sometime forget that people like yourself need help as well. Please keep us posted for people on here will try to support as best we can.

Sending kind thoughts your way, Brian

Yes I know how you feel, my auntie died just over a year ago. My cousins wife had been staying overnight with her in hospital, because she didn't want to 'die alone'. She came home with a hospital bed and only lasted a couple of days. Took my dad to see her the day she died and it was terrible, she was in pain and just muttering 'I want to die' Twas a blessing for her when she slipped away. She didn't have children, so there was only us nephews and nieces(well the few of us that went to see her anyway). So I definately feel your sorrow. Breaks your heart. Sending hugs xxxxxxxx

I'm so sorry to hear this - my mum is in the same place. If it is any consolation as a medic I know that in their last hours they do not feel any pain. This does not make it any easier for loved ones but know that they know you are there and they will die peacefully surrounded by loved ones