I'm so sorry that your mum is nearing the end of her fight Maria. Its good that you've found comfort on these forum's and I hope that in the coming months you will continue to find support here.

I would absolutely tell your mum everything you want to say. Thank her for everything she has done. Tell her sorry for any times you feel you have let her down. Remind her of fantastic times you have had together and let her know that she has done a great job bringing you up. I believe you will regret it if you remain silent. I'm sure your mum will appreciate your words so very much.

Sending you a virtual hug at this difficult time

Inula x 

Hi Maria,

I egree 100% with what the lovely Inuka has said. When my mother was in the later stages of breast cancer which had spread to her brain, she was in hospital and I regret I wasnt brave enough to say thing like what you have written. I know my mother knew how much I loved her and that I was grateful for all she had done for me because I had told her previously, but I know she would have liked to hear it again. She was so brave at the end and was more concerned for me than she was for herself.

I hope you continue to post on here as I feel sure it will help you through the tough time as people on here understand what an emotional time it is. Sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian

Hi Maria

I did pop a reply on  another thread where we have spoken before but have just noticed your post and wanted to add my agreement to both Inula and Brian.  Yes it will be emotional (for you to say and possiblyfor her to hear) but there is every reason to sit and tell your lovely Mum how you feel about having her in your life and even reminding her of how much she has given you. Having  no regrets because you have said these things will comfort you later.  We were told that hearing is quite possibly the last sense to be lost during the final days and I chatted to my husband about all sorts of things even though he was too tired to reply.  My thoughts are with you and the family. Sending a virtual hug.Jules x 

Thank you all for your kind words of support. This support gave me the push I needed to tell my mum what I needed to. I thanked her for being such a wonderful mum and said I was sorry for any time I had let her down, to which she replied 'you have never let me down'. It's all I needed to say and hear. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted. Thank you for all your comments and support, you really are helping me through this.

virtual hugs,

maria xxx

hi jules, my heart goes out to you, a heart wrenching time for you and mum. ive recently with her daughter and my brother nursed my sister aged 45 years through to the end. it was a very spiritual time, vey calm and fshe was surrounded in gentle love and kindness. you will find the extra special strength, that we all have within us to get through these deeply painful challenging times. hopefully you have good support for you for now and later. just surround mum in love and make her feel safe, its all you can do. xx

Hello everyone. For those who have been kind enough to support me on this forum, I just wanted to let you know that my beloved mum passed away on 23rd June. I was lucky to be holding her hand as she slipped away.  It's such an emotional rollercoster right now, on the one hand I'm relieved that her pain and suffering is over, however, on the other hand, i miss my mum and best friend terribly. She had a beautiful turnout at her funeral on 1st july, and although that's a comfort, it's little consolation. I have a tough journey ahead and I'm scared at the prospect of a future without the single most important person in my life. My heart is breaking but I would like to thank you for your support. God bless you all xxx

So sorry for your loss Maria. May you will find strength and peace of mind in the coming weeks months and years knowing that you were there for your mum til her passing. 

Netty xx

Dear Maria

My condolences on the passing of your Mum. There are little words that can take away the hurting just now, I know but take time for yourself, draw on the comfort of those around you; emotions offer release and  in time the wonderful memories you have made together will make it a little easier day by day. The love you had for your Mum, and hers for you, will live in your heart always. Sending hugs and peace at this saddest of times. Jules xx

Hi Maria,

I am so sorry to read about the passing of your mother. Just remember, a part of her still live on inside of you for she has helped shape the caring person that you are.

Sending best wishes and kind thoughts your way, Brian.