Cancer taken over

Hi my brother has cancer....lungs, spine, tumor on aorta, stomach, and brain. was diagnosed a year and 3 weeks ago. has had various chemo and radio therapy on brain and spine. he is 51 yrs old and was a heavy smoker. He has recently developed pneumonia and has anaemia, blood transfusion tomorrow. on antibiotics for pneumonia. He has been so courageous and strong. today he called me and says his ankles and feet are now swollen.........and he passes out ofton. im in bits obviously, what can I do for him?

  • Poor your brother = welcome here by the way and poor you - at wits end trying to find answers. Well, your brother is very ill and needs care and you to be strong. The doctors and nurses will help him physically = and it maybe possible for you to buck him up and make him laugh. I know its terrible and what I say soundsso crass = but what else is there? Ask him what treat he would like and get it for him. My dad wanted jellied eels! Then make him laugh and share with you = it will take his mind of his discomfort at his situation.  So be strong

    In mean times

    we will be thinking of you

    There is light

    Steven 

  • Thank you for your response. Good to know there are people out there that understand. Im a nurse myself, and hate KNOWING so much if you get my drift. i try to explain to Mom whats happeneing and she is in total denial saying he will be fine, just has to shake it off!   how do i tell my mom that her eldest son is dying??

    im big, brave, always the joker, but when im alone it hurts so much xx