Hi 19001973

Lucie makes a good suggestion regarding username change. It is so much easier, friendly and personal to communicate using a name and not a number however, we are all entitled to call ourselves what we like. My own chosen forum name is Inula but this isnt my real name. Anyway, welcome to the place non of us wants to be. Im sure you will find lots of support here.

I have some experience regarding kidney cancer as my mother in law had it about 13 years ago. She was given her diagnosis on her 66th birthday and was already very unwell at that time as the cancer had spread before she became symptomatic.   You mention that your grandmother has just turned 85. Hopefully because she is still pretty healthy and active you will celebrate plenty more birthdays with her.

In my mother in laws case her disease  was already  very advanced to the point where she was no longer mobile. I would not like to say how long your grandmother may or may not have left or how long her disease  might take to progress. Im not a medical person and even medical people dont have crystal  balls (a friend of ours was diagnosed with a brain tumour and was told he had 12 months at best but his family spent another 7+ years with him)  If I remember correctly I contacted kidney cancer UK (kcuk.org) for information and found them very helpful.

My best advice would be to enjoy each day as it comes with your grandmother.

Warm wishes  Inula x