my dad has cancer and I feel like I'm watching him die

My dad was diagnosed with cancer 5years ago and was given 2 years at the time. I know we were very lucky to get all this extra time with him. More than what most people get. Unfortunately he has a whole range of other illnesses, he has spondylosis of the spine and hips which make it difficult for him to walk and is registered disabled, he also suffers daily from menierres disease, which is an imbalance in the inner ear and makes him constantly dizzy and nauseous. He never used to complain about anything, he's a working class man, just gets on with things. But he doesn't deserve the end of his days being unable to walk and sitting in a room that won't ever stop spinning. There is nothing that can be done to combat his other illnesses, he's in pain and constantly dizzy and nauseous. nobody deserves to suffer this much after a lifetime of working his *** of. Does it come to a point when u figure out how to cope with everything he suffers with without crying ur eyes out cus deep down u literally would do anything to stop his suffering, u can't even help ease anything for him.

  • Hello tanyab1307,

    Thank you for sharing your story and a big welcome to our forum. There are many here who have been through the same experience you describe, and have had to watch a parent suffer. It must be so heartbreaking for you.

    Someone posted very recently who is in a similar situation as you. The title of her thread is 'Mum is slowly going...' and you can read her story here and respond to her if you want.

    I am sure others who can really relate to how you are feeling will be along soon to talk to you. 

    Best wishes,

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator