Hi Becca

Was sorry to learn that your Dad lost his fight against this cruel disease.  Sending condolences to you and the family at this sad time.Jules

hiya im in the same boat just before xmas a had a fit, active dad and now have a dad that is just wasting away in front of my eyes, we were told months 2 weeks ago. my heart has been in my throat since. Not sure how to feel and what to say to him. I am very proud of him tho he is positve and enjoying life as much as we can. We are all off on hol next week as his final request. so going to make some good memorys. I just keep having the same dream where i dont get to say goodbye, so not getting any sleep. its lovely knowing i have more people i can talk to, x

Hi Becca. 

I know exactly what you are going through.  My dad was diagnosed with mouth cancer with local spread in February.  He has been through a very grueling and problematic course of radiotherapy and chemo. Last week we were told that the cancer has spread to his liver and is widespread in his bones.  We now know that we probably only have a few months left with him.  It's impossible to comprehend.  I also have a little girl who is 5 and a bit of a papa's girl.  She knows he isn't well but I haven't told her everything yet.  I know I will  have to.  I go from being very practical and sorting everything out to just falling apart.  

hello Becca, reading back over your posts from when you first posted, frightened, shocked and overwhelmed....here you are having gone through the worst time of your life, what you were most scared of happening, happened, yet you sound like you are coping well. it amazes me how well people end up coping in the face of such difficult curcumstances. hope you and your little boy are ok with good supportvaround you. lee

Hi my dad got diagnosed with mouth cancer a few weeks ago, he has lost so much weight and is currently in hospital, we got told 2 days ago that he is to far gone and they can't operate on him, if chemo does not work they have give him 6 months -1 year for his life.   I don't know what to do with myself, he my best friend and I would be lost with out him

Yeah it's all happening so quickly, not really hit me I think, my sisters can't stop crying but I'm just abit numb about it all, best wishes to you at this difficult time

I've been in tears most of the time too, but try to hold it together in front of dad. I feel so helpless. He just wants to feel better. It's been such a shock, and having to think about things you never ever wish you would have to. strength and courage to you at this difficult time. 

Thank you for these wonderful but tragic words.  I read these posts and have felt all of these things just one after another.  My heart is broken, my dear brother - just 45 - has only a few months to go.  He has a grade IV gliomablastoma... brain tumour.  I am so scared for him because he is struggling to talk and remember the words (even to every day things) and i fear that he is becoming locked in his own brain and is losing the ability to communicate.  My poor sis-in-law and their two kiddies.  i just don't know how i can ever stop crying.  I feel like a fraud as i'm turning into a basket case and my sis-in-law is being so strong. 

Hi,

I am so sorry to hear about your dad.  My heart goes out to you and your family.  I know exactly how you are feeling and can totally 100% sympathise. 

What you are going through is such an awful experience and a shock to yu all as he is so quickly so ill.  It so hard to get your head around it.

My dad was diangonsed with terminal cancer in June, we were devastatingly told he has gastric Adenocarcinoma, which is already spread (within just a few months...according the to doctors !!)  He is stage T4b N2 M1 and it has already spread to his spleen & pancreas and he's been told it's inoperable. and given 1 year to live with chemo.

Dad has had many symptoms over the past few years & months. He has had cameras up & down & blood tests & scans, all apparently normal.  He had Helicobactor Pylori Infection last year (which increases the risk of stomach cancer) but he was never told that) which he was treated for & told had been cleared.   He recently complained of several things, including heartburn, breathlessness, feeling bloated, unable to swallow.  All fobbed off by doctors and specialists.  Why did they not flag that up when these symptoms followed ????

He is currently on round 2 of his chemo, and thankfully appears to be quite well (which we are all shocked about) but hes a fighter & determined it's not going to beat him.  I am sure once they stop your dads sickness that he will fight it too.  Thats what dads do, they fight for their families.

We are finding it difficult to sop, for weeks after I couldnt sleep at all, it all goes around & around in your head, I (like I am sure you are) feel like I cannot function normally, as life if no longer normal

Sending you lots of love, courage and strength to get you through.

Talking helps, definitely, I ahve had counselling, which without I am not sure I could cope x