Hi Ian

Lots of changes going on for you and the children but you must be very proud of them whilst, at the same time, finding the moving on still a difficult process at times.  Expect work keeping you busy too but hope you have an enjoyable weekend ahead and that you are keeping well.  Virtual hugs to you and a pat for Jack.  Take care Jules x

Thanks Jules,

Jack grateful for his pat.... I have been in agony with tooth problems!! Must be my age!?!  They have been good till now. Just had a wisdom tooth removed, still short of two fillings and a crown in the wings waiting to be done !

Help .... but still smiling

Warm vitual hugs and kisses

Ian

Used to hate the dentist!  Hope you get it all sorted soon. (My teeth were horrid and took the decision (after a lot of soul searching and chat with dentist) to have dentures - no more pain/drilling or big bills lol.

Am feeling a little relaxed today (despite having to go into work) as hubby had a day with our son yesterday (sitting by a fishing lake) and I spent time doing things for me - change is as good as a rest.  He was weary when he got home and will no doubt 'sleep for England' today but it was good that he went and enjoyed it too (he rarely leaves the house these days  unless its for appointments)!.

Look after yourself. Big virtual hugs forum buddy.  Jules x

Hi Jules,

That sounds so good for hubby, a day with his son by the lake.  It will be memories of good times for them both to cherish.

Loving and caring thoughts (with one wisdom tooth less),

Ian xx

Ouch!  Hope your mouth soon heals and the toothache is a thing of the past.  Hubby really enjoyed his day (caught quite a few too) but like everything has paid for it today (sleeping like a newborn baby) and probably tomorrow too and finding it a real effort to enjoy eating.  I have meeting with him at his GP's next week (she has asked to see me!) so could be a hard day - hey ho.

Hope  you have a lovely weekend and that this late Summer holds (though we had a bit of drizzle first thing this morning its been a lovely warm afternoon).  Take care. Jules x

Hi Jules,

No eating isn't one of my favourite pass times at the moment either!  I hope things are too bad with Hubby.  Have you had your GP meeting yet?

I'm over loaded with work coming up to a long weekend away with my Jules.

Kind thoughts and hugs

Ian xx

Morning Ian

Bet you having to get the work up to date so you can 'rest easy' whilst you are away. Hope you enjoy your weekend with your Jules (great name) - are you at her place or going away?

We had meeting with GP today and basically she wanted to put a name to a face (as far as I am concerned) but also needed to explain to hubby that he could be doing more to help himself whilst he still had good quality of life as she felt he was 'wasting' his time -oops (not easy for him to hear but sad to say very necessary for him to hear it!!).  She in her professional capacity and me as home encourager (he admitted I have been trying but he has been ignoring it).  No need for any change in pain meds as all under control but she is adamant he needs to 'get out of his chair and the house and take gentle exercise and  be more social if he wants to keep his lungs working for as long as possible!!  I told her I recognised the symptoms of depression all too well (given my Mum) and she agreed that this would be more of a problem if he chose to ignore advice!  I will have to see how I can 'motivate' a response albeit gently.  She made a few suggestions too and will see him again in a month (she is happy for me to go along too if he agrees!).

How is your mouth healing following extraction - no doubt still a bit tender -  I recommend lots of ice cream  (we are currently getting through two tubs a week as an 'extra' at supper time.  Hubby is slowly integrating the shakes into his day (on top of anything I can get him to eat) so hope it will help.

Lovely weather here today so may get into the garden in a bit.  Take care and enjoy your weekend.  Hugs returned.Jules x

Hi Jules,

Mouth was a problem and had to go back to the dentist ... but now getting there.  Thanks for the idea I'll get some in.

Daughters dogs have gone back now so back to real life.  I spend my time between Mine and Julies Houses.  Mainly at her's with me travelling.  I don't mind as this works well.  We are intending on getting hitched before the end of the year so that is very exciting.  Debbie would have been so happy for me to have found some happiness and such that is deep and meaningful and right.  Most people, friends and family seem to think its all too soon but once Ive explained they do come around a bit.  I understand from their angle but they are not us or know how we are and what seems so right for us....I beleive you know when you know and don't need to waste time to keep others happy.  I have been lucky to find my Jules, but you do to some extent make your own luck in life by participating in it....

On that point I think your Dr. has suggested that to your hubby....You can only be certain you have the one shot: make the most of it!

Lots of kind thoughts

Ian xx

Hi Ian,

Well congratulations on your pending nuptials.I am so pleased for you.

I remember thinking you had met someone a while back and you had told me I was right.

It is lovely that you and Julie are so special to each other and that you have given yourselves this chance of life together.

You had done a lot of soul searching in the time after loosing Debbie and I suspect your grieveing started when Debbie was still with you.

Good luck in the future Ian,

Stay true to yourself.

Loads of hugs

Annabel. xx