Ian,

So glad for you that you found Julie.

Family and friends will come to accept things eventually just in their own timescale.

Your timescale is different. You have to return to life and have.

Wishing you both the very best.

Et al

Annabel xx

Thank you so much for all of your support ~ I needed it, I now realsie.  This week is back to being alone and in fact a bit lonely again.  I hadn't realised how quickly one gets use to compatible company once you've found it! 

Love and hugs to all.

Ian xxx

Its the having someone to share with that I am sure you find yourself missing once it goes, albeit now only temporarily.  Virtual buddies can fill the gap till 'your girl' gets back  and you will be back in good company and playing catch up in no time at all.  When 'alone' too much thinking going on so hope Jack benefitting from lengthy walks inbetween your work commitments.  Hugs returned - here to listen anytime.Jules x

Thanks Jules,

I really needed that this morning.  I had just re-read Debbies notes and was feeling low as it all came back to me and I am missing my Julie too (although she has just skyped me from Singapore) ...so thanks

Lots of kindness to you

Ian xx

Hi Ian,

Jules (as often) is right. Sometimes being alone can mean too much thinking time, however it is also a good time to go back over things, to think of Debbie and what you had.

This does not direspect Julie but it is perhaps a more appropiate time whilst she is away.

Debbie will not be forgotten but Julie is your here and now and helps you to live.

It is also good for all of us to occaisionally be alone and learn and sometimes relearn to be comfortable with just ourselves.

I get this chance once a year when my husband goes away for a few days with his friends.

I love it, I do what I want, when I want, wirh whom I want and eat what I want or not.

At the end of those few days I can't wait to have him back. By then I have had enough of myself.

Big hugs being sent

from an online friend.

Annabel. xx

Morning Ian

So glad you heard from Julie but can understand your emotional turmoil as  you 'look back' but still need to 'look forward'.  Nothing can take away the wonderful memories of your life with Debbie pre illness and the sadness you will always feel at her loss.  That being said you are blessed with a new relationship  and I know you feel lucky to have a new lady in your life and I think it just highlights those 'alone'moments which you are experiencing whilst she is on holiday.  I hope she is enjoying Singapore.  My hubby whisked me away there for a surprise 25th wedding anniversary many moons ago now (plus a three day trip to a Malasian island Lankawi) and I loved it - so clean and lovely street markets and wildlife.

Take care and sending hugs  Jules x

Thanks Annabel,

you are right of course about having time apart.  Debbie and I did it infrequently but always appreciated it.  Julie and I are honouring our pre-us arrangements with friends and are still at the stage where we don't really need, as yet, to be apart.  So it is difficult.  At least the end is ion sight .

Lots of kind thoughts and appreciative hugs

Ian x

Hi Jules,

Yes she is loving Singapore and has sent me so many photos I am really dead jealous!!  I think we may re-visit together at some stage.

Kind and loving thoughts

Ian x

Hi Ian

It is great in some ways that you are feeling lonely with Julie as it means you are moving on positively.  It does not mean that you miss Debbie or appreciate your time with her less

As you say you are both doing pre-you as a couple arrangements  but they will be over soon enough and you can spend more time together.

Am wildly jealous of Julie as I have always wanted to visit Singapore.  Will have to work a bit harder!

Very best wishes.

Gill