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Thoughts on the Dying Process

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I insert my late wife's thoughts.  She died of Kidney cancer of the lymph glands on 19th January this year.  She was very positive to the end and tried hard to learn and share her experience for the benefit of others.

Please feel free to view and read and share with anyone who would benefit.  Debbie's horror was dying young and mine is living without her but her message is one of hope. xxx

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    Dear Ian,

    I hope you Julie have a super time and look forward to hearing about it on your return.

    I am sure the pets will have a lovely holiday too.!!!

    hugs

    Annabel. xx

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    Hi Ian

    Have a fab time.  Fingers crossed that England do well.

    Gill

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    Hope trip goes well.  Laptop is playing up and am going to have to take it in to be looked at so will be offline grrrrrr.Jules

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    Hi All

    Back safely from Brasil...lots to catch up on will feed back soon

    lots of love

    Ian x

  • Offline in reply to haff1

    Hi Ian,

    Glad to see you are back safely.

    Bet your tired from travelling.

    Catch up with you soon.

    Hugs

    Annabel. xx

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    Welcome back Ian

    Hope your hols was better than the football.  Looking forward to hearing all about  as, no doubt is Julie. Hope Jack gave you a good welcome home.  Hugs  Jules x 

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    Hi Ian

    Glad you are safely back.  A great pity that England could not play better and have stayed in the competition longer.

    Gill

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    Hi Jules et al,

    Thanks for your well wishing.  Yes England were their usual disaster!!  Luckily we went to Salvador and only watched the matches there - all of which were good (5-1, 4-0, 5-2).

    Pleased to be home Jack was very excited to see me ~ as was my Julie.  She has currently gone on a pre-me arranged trip with her mate to Singapore; so I am back alone now for a week .  But hey, once this is over we don't have any more pre-arranged, pre-us events to attend .

    This finding a significant other sure does help in the process of getting over the loss and I am very lucky to be in this position.  It is easier for the new person.  However, there are still some very intense moments to get through when you are reminded again of the person you so loved who has gone...... It is horrible and difficult to come to terms with the reality that one just has to live on, and to do it one has to eventually put the loss into third person terms to cope!  The other family and friends can find this difficult!

    Lots of love and hugs

    Ian x

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    Hi Ian

    So pleased you were able to enjoy some good football matches during your stay in Brazil.  Perhaps you found another team to follow on your arrival home!!

    Am sure Jack has reverted to normal self now his master has returned from his travels but suspect with Julie now on her pre-planned trip you have a bit of reflection time.  Do not be hard on yourself and remember the life you have now is for you to enjoy (and you can bet your bottom dollar that Debbie would have approved).  It may take a little while for family and friends to cotton on to the fact that you 'need to live to feel alive' and to be sure Debbie will always have a part of your heart  but I am sure they will eventually understand you have needs too and are lucky to have found another soul mate.  I wish you well.

    Bet you are counting the days to Julie's return when you can enjoy moving forward together once more. Take care  Jules x

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