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Thoughts on the Dying Process

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I insert my late wife's thoughts.  She died of Kidney cancer of the lymph glands on 19th January this year.  She was very positive to the end and tried hard to learn and share her experience for the benefit of others.

Please feel free to view and read and share with anyone who would benefit.  Debbie's horror was dying young and mine is living without her but her message is one of hope. xxx

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    Hi Ian,

    Well Debbie would have been 55 years young today.

    Like Jo I just wanted to  send you love and hugs.

    Thinking of you and hope you have a good time with your close friends and a good lunch.

    Annabel xx.

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    Hi Ian

    Am sure the walk will blow the cobwebs away and the pub lunch with your friends sounds wonderful.  Am sitting watching hubby having 'cat therapy' and then need to do last food shop before Christmas.

    Just wanted to let you know am keeping you in my thoughts during this emotional period and sending virtual hugs (not of much use I know but well meant).

    Weather appears to be playing havoc with our internet access so hope my responses today make it through and if I miss anyone am so sorry - technology is well out of my control!!!

    Take care my friend.  Jules xx

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    Thank you Jo, Annabel and Jules, so much, for your thoughts and kindness ... I can't express how much it helps .....it just does, thank you.

    The sadness of dying is knowing your personal journey is at an end and the time is coming when you must say farewell to your world and special companions who you have chosen to travel with.  The sadness in 'living-on' is in continuing your journey without those special companions whom you love, trust and have come thus far with .....

    Love to you all,

    Ian xxx

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    ... For me at this time of year ~ this year at least ......

    ......I can cry if I choose to, I am allowed ............. I only still wish I didn't have the reason I have to do so !

    Happy Xmas week to you all.

    Ian xxx

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    Dear Ian

    Am thinking of you and wish Icould offer more than a words and a hug to wrap yourself up in as you shed tears for what you have loved and lost.  Sending peaceful thoughts but let the tears fall in Debbie's memory and hold in your heart the inspirational words that she left you and this community. Look after yourself and sending love to you and your children as you move along the emotional ride that no one wants to be on.  Jules xx

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    Thanks Jules,

    That cheered me up.

    I will be busy now for few days (avoiding my memories of this time last year), as I expect we will all be.  As such I will be off thread for a few days so here's to a Happy Xmas and a HAPPY New Year to YOU ALL and especially my virtual friends here ....love and safety to you all.

    Ian xxx

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    Hi Ian,

    Wishing you a peaceful and comforting time at Christmas.

    Hope your family enjoy themselves with you.

    Love and hugs

    Annabel.xx

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    Hi Annabel,

    Thank you. You too.  Enjoy your Xmas.

    Love and kisses

    Ian xx

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    Hi,

    Well got through that ..... bit difficult at times  ~ especially when I was alone ~  but fortunately not to often .....now to the next event ...... and I must start thinking of aims for the New Year.... I had none for last year: it was all too awful at the time!

    Hope you all got through Xmas happily and safe.

    Big Virtual Kiss for the New Year

    XXX

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    Hi Ian

    We too made it through the Christmas (just colds for hubby and sister in law) and have come out the other side.  It all went well and I have to say Imade the most of  not having to 'host'.   Am thinking of  you and wish you peace for 2014.  Jules xx

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