Hi Ian

Many of us will relate to  you post, mine for different reasons as I lost my Dad 5 years ago and now that my hubby has incurable cancer you are left wondering whether each anniversary will be the last and trying to make it a good one without bringing over-the-top attention to it.  I commemerated my Dad'smemory in my usual way (sending donation to the hospice where he spent his last days) and we are having a 'takeaway' dinner tonight with our children and family.  My daughter and her family are at a Race for Life event today supporting the family of a young Mum who lost her battle in February.  Her youngest child was in my 4yr old grandson's nursery class so a very difficult day for everyone.

Hope you day is peaceful and you see or hear from your children. Take care  Jules

Thank you both for your kind words.  I really appreciate them xx

Ian......yet another poignant situation on this site where I'm at a complete loss as to what to say, but still feel compelled to at least try and reach out by responding in some way.

I sincerely hope you're having the kind of Fathers' Day Debbie would want you to enjoy.

Thanks Serena ... at leat the kids remembered to get cards to me and didn't rely on Deb reminding them!

xx

.....I have to say whilst keeping busy is my only real escape ...it does help, so much, to see my late wife's experience of the process she went through (made available on my original post) being accessed by so many.  We do need to share our expierences and demistify this disease. x

Hi Ian,

Strange you should mention music.  Its something hubby and I rarely do (listen together) as our music tastes are quite different and he spends his time in front of the tv so I used to have the music on when he was out (rarely an option now - we have open plan living area).  However, two days ago I realised I really liked the soundtrack music/song to one of his sci-fi programmes and so went on line and found a copy which I have now ordered.  Hope when it comes to surprise him with it and have done the right thing!!  Have a peaceful and relaxing weekend.  Jules

I didn't want to leave your incredible post without saying how beautiful and poignant it is, thank you so much for sharing and I am so very sorry for your and your family's loss.

Hi Jules,

I do hope your sound track arrives in good time and you can enjoy some quality time listeninmg to it.  It is strange how so many of the ordinary things in life  - those ones we take for granted in the normal run of things - take on their true value at times like this. I'm going to a friends 60th today - BBQ - but its raining so we'll see!.

Kind thoughts

Ian

Thanks Verity.  All we can do is share and help each other with the concerns and sadnesses life throws up.  It is good to find somewhere to do it, whilst embracing the moment, wonder and happiness there is to be found in being here: even if not quite in the situation one would chose!

Lots of love

Ian