Hi jessica i lost my mum 3 weeks ago after only being diagoned 6 days before. She was lucky not to have suffered any pain just extreme tiredness and jaundice. I had never seen a dead person or anyone die but as my dad isnt in good health i took the lead to stay with her . I was petrified not knowing what to expect as i had watched my father in law suffer for 10 wks 5 years ago. She wasnt on any driver or medication and just went to sleep the evening before she passed after she told me she wasnt scared and how much she loved me and how i will always be her little princess (im 51!) she slept for another 14 hours and at 11pm she opened her eyes and smiled at me . I got the nurse who said it was nearly time so i lifted mums head in the crook of my arm and at 11.14 she opened her eyes again and her breathing slowed down but nothing distressing. Through the tears and my heart ready to explode i kissed her gently and whispered in her ear " close yr tired little eyes mum and fly with the angels...." She took one little breath and passed. Now it hasnt made me losing her any easier but my message to you is everyones passing is different and you have to take yr own path and not compare to others you might have lost or other poor peoples passing. Take it as it comes dont fight with the tears let them flow and talk to your mum as the hearing is last to go. May God bless you and your Mum . Take care 

Juliexx

Hi 

my mum is dying Im crying as I type this I can't cops with the thought of losing my mum, she has Breast cancer first diagnosed 2005 had chemo but it came back as secondary Breast cancer 2013 which was then spread to liver and stomach since been on different chemos which seemed to be controlling it, but since august she showed more progression and was in a lot of pain, she was in hospital many times with getting her stomach drained, she then had a permanent drain fitted which hasn't helped,She was getting weaker and weaker at home so oncologist said to spend some time in the hospice to try build herself up again, she has been taken off chemo and has lost so much weight I feel so helpless she has been sick all day today so didn't want me to go visit it's so hard to cope im so scared losing my mum how can there be nothing else they can do for her we've been told she has months how will my dad cope as my mum has already been the strongest person in our family she's 59 seeing her like this is unbearable 

has anyone had any miracles as im praying for one 

Zoe I'm so sorry I understand totally I'm going though it with my mother as well my mother got inoperable bowel cancer we don't know how long she got . I think my mother don't want to know I feel exactly like you my mother been the strong one in our family my father  not coping with what happened. I feel like I'm in night mere because it's happen so quick I haven stopped praying for miracle . This is so cruel it's not fair . :( my heart is breaking knowing one day I will never see my mother again it's killing me as well :( you not alone 

Hi genini39

sorry to hear about your mum it's so sad more than words can say, i really wish a miracle for our mums

i feel the same as you feel like im in a nightmare or its happening to someone else, sometimes when I think about it I have to chuck it out my thoughts and feel like im living in denial, but my brain won't let me do it, or I just cry at night i have an 8 month old daughter who I have to keep strong for i take her to see my mum in the hospice she's not strong enough to hold her but she does make he smile 

I havd a sister and brother but between us we don't talk about what's happening neither does my dad, I'm not sure if your family do?

we have to keep praying I wish things were different for both our mums and families 

Hi Zoe I also got 10 month old baby boy I got two sisters older than me I'm 39 . We don't talk about what going on to and my father as well my mother more worried about my father he not coping at all. At the moment my mother ok she do have pain and she gets tied quickly to . She got oppointment with hospice Friday she doesn't what to go because she don't want to know how long she got etc . But they have told her to come because it for pain management. 

Just watch for the driver being put in.and being bed bound.watch if she stops eating.and yes it really devastating i was close to my dad and its killing me.

If thay say she has to go in hospital don't let her go in if she feels great in her self keep her away.the saying is  you go in and never get out but keep up with appointments keep an medication and ask what it for

My family are the same everything blocked away.when my dad died and we maid the phone calls my two sons seen three people sitting with a heart around it then it split in the clouds.when we pronounced him dead.on monday the day ove his death the rarest moon appear it was so lovely so i think hes trying to give me a sign in the sky so now i keep looking to see if he trying to