Hi Jessicax,

Thank you for telling us about your mother and how you are feeling at this sad time for you. Let me assure you that you are not being selfish or silly and no one on this site will think that of you. When you are in the situation you are in you are having to try and deal with a whole range of emotions and feelings. I lost my mother to breast cancer over six years ago so I know what you are going through. I expect you also feel like I did in as much as I felt so helpless for there is nothing you can to to cure the illness yourself. At the end, all I could do was to hold her hand and I just felt so helpless. Please keep us updated on how you are feeling.

Please take care and best wishes to you and your family, Brian

Hi Jessica.

I too, unfortunately, know how you are feeling as my Mum was diognosed with Liver cancer in Jan this year and told there was nothing they could do apart from some chemo to try and prolong her life. I'm actually caring for her now as she's declined a lot in the past 2 weeks and even the thought of how little time she has left makes me feel so upset and angry and useless but crying is a good thing, letting your emotions out is better than bottling them up, so dont think this is unsusal. You have lots of 'virtual' support on here if you need it and your family around you.

It's not fair at all and my heart goes out to you. Let me know how you go,

Sending big hugs,

Kelly xXx

Yesterday after a big cry I managed to cope all day, even smiling. It's hard but I then felt guilty for being happy an remembered my mum is lying in her hospital bed cared and alone. Thank you for your reply, it's nice to know there are people out there who know how I'm feeling, even though it is hard to believe. Will it get easier as the days go by?

Hi Kelly. Originally they gave my mum 18 months to live, and it's been 6 years. There was many times where my mum was so sick we thought we were going to lose her so don't give up hope. You and your mum are both very brave. xx

Hi Jessica. I have read your post and the other comments. I think your mum loves you very much and even though she can't physically cuddle you she has and will always have her arms  around you and will be your guardian angel.  A mum's love for her children is 'unconditional'  and nothing  you do or say will ever break that love.

You should cry, laugh when you are with her, she will be smiling or crying inside as well. Dont feel guilty, I am sure that  is the last thing she will want you to feel. Forget about the material things  and funeral for now, I am sure your dad has that in hand. Ask the hospital if you can take the dog in to see her, some hospices allow that.

I am positive that you have one very fond childhood memories, try and think of these when you are sad as they will bring a smile to your face. Take care Lesley x

After visiting my mum today I know she has only days to live. Her body is weak, she hasn't ate or drank anything in 2 days and they've up'd her morphine so much that she is in a constant sleep, occasionally she will cough but her eyes roll back into her head and they are yellow. When she first did this I screamed and left the room because I thought she just died. I feel so lost and I'm so scared. I'm never going to see my mum again, it doesn't seem real. My mum wouldn't want to see herself like this, let alone us. It's hard because she looks so much different compared to a few days ago, almost like she's aged 10 years over night. I want to help my mum, my poor mum, I bet she is so scared.

Hi Jessica

I am sorry to hear how ill your mum is. It is an extremely difficult time. Your emotions are all over the place. It is heartbreaking watching them suffer and deteriorate in front of your eyes. Very cruel to them and to us

You are there for your mom, she knows you love her, thats all that she needs.

Im sure the hospital staff are doing all they can to keep her comfortable and thankfully she will be in no pain

I just want to let you know Im thinking of you, and stay strong

Geri

xx

Hey Jessica,

I'm very sorry to hear all that. My mom is going through the exact same thing right now. Healthy and full of life half a year ago, now hasn't left bed or eaten in 3 days. I was wondering how things ended up going with your mother and how in the past year or so you have felt and learned to cope with it. I'm 21 now also. It is very hard having to watch her health deteriorate and be in so much pain. Some days she can barely communicate since she's so drugged up.

Hi im just new to this as im just trying tocometo termswith the loss of my mum. she was diagnosed with breat cancer 5months ago and had a masectomy andhad 4chemos her oncologist had told her she had a great outlook but just 3 weeks ago she became really sick and i thad spead to liver and bones it was the hardest thing i have ever heard ordealt with in my life to know that it was terminal. What she had went through with chemo had no affect they said that it just doesnt agree with some peopole.  Although we still thought she had years. 2weeks today she lost her battle with cancer and passed away. For that week me and my 2 younger sisters had to nurse her and by this stage it was impossible to watch. she had a driver attched to her to relieve pain and sickness but the worst was not been able to talk to her and tell her what we wanted as it seemed she had drifted to another world. On the friday the day before she dids was just awful watching her, through the night it gradually got worse and she was so restless realising myself that her time was up. Im glad though me and my sisters nursed my mum i wouldnthave had itany other way although it was the most difficult thing to do. As mothers day is tomarrow i am finding it so difficult our mum was our best friend we were so close and im realli strugglingto cope. But spend as much time with your mum now and tell her everything andhave no regrets.