Try not to think about what you’ll regret my mums terminal too and I’m finding it so hard my family don’t talk about serious stuff and mum wants to pretend it’s not happening but Im sure our mums just want us to live having a balance is part of that so college seeing Tory mates and your band stuff is important believe me I moved out just before my mums diagnosis the guilt was awful but I have to carry on with my life as much as we both want to drop everything I considered quitting my job just to spend all my time with her but that’s just unrealistic unfortunately:( hope you’re doing better

i am thank you. sometimes the greif becomes a lot and i think thats when the guilt starts. now i've calmed down a bit, i realise that i need to acheive my goals because my life wont end with my mums. i hope that things feel easier for you as well

Therapy is very helpful I’m going to it myself and also seeking some specific to this! It’s so overwhelming I find it effects me so much more when I’m not busy or on my own but I can’t stay busy all the time yanno? I’m trying to let myself feel it in little bursts so it doesn’t overwhelm me so easily but obviously still stupidly overwhelming and thank you they think me mums got 6 months but is seemingly healthy so it’s very hard to get my head around!

its so difficult. i got told my mum had 6 months aroind 3 years ago. the fact that its so unknown is very hard. i like your idea of doing it in small parts. it'll still hurt but it might be easier for me to understand that way

I am so pleased to hear you have talked to your mum that is good to hear. Counselling is Free in the NHS, I have had over a year of Counselling, I cried buckets Renfyld, but it does help I know it does. Well done for being honest with your mum x

thank you, i have some through macmillan soon but its only six sessions. i think i might try and get a more long term therapist

I agree grief is so painful n I think anticipatory is worse when my mum got diagnosed over a yr ago I thought podcast and facts were helpful but like you said given 6months 3 years ago is soooo confusing and hard to know what to do with yourself!

I am having a cancer buddy that calls me once a week for I think its 12 weeks (But she is not a qualified counsellor.) She does help though.

I contacted a qualified Psychiatrist through my Doctor, at the cancer and haematology department. I was lucky to have once a week with a Psychiatrist who works for the NHS. It may be worth you talking to your Doctor? 

I am having a cancer buddy that calls me once a week for I think its 12 weeks (But she is not a qualified counsellor.) She does help though.

I contacted a qualified Psychiatrist through my Doctor, at the cancer and haematology department. I was lucky to have once a week with a Psychiatrist who works for the NHS. It may be worth you talking to your Doctor? 

yes i'll try. i'll also talk to my normal pyshciatrist to see if i can get something through them. i am having my medication increased soon so i'm hoping that will help as well

Good, is it Depression tablets I was on Citalopram, you have to find the medication that suits you, because everyone is different.

yes i'm on sertraline at the moment after being on a different one. this one does seem to be helping a lot more but i still struggle so we're upping the dose

x