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I am so scared

Biggels
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I am waiting for my prostate biopsie results I am seeing my consultant on Tuesday .I had a PSA result of 23and my ct scan and my ct scan and mri scan showed up to ledions  one at a pirads of 3 and the of with a score  of 4 I jave had a pain in my back now for 8 weeksand everything is pointing to stage 4 metastic bone cancer I am so scared and I scared of dieing from this cancer I am terrified and do not know how to cope with this It making me sick with worry How do you cope with this

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    Hi Biggels, finding out you have cancer is scary, your mind does not stop worrying, (That's my experience.) Waiting until Tuesday to find out your biopsie results is horrible, we all spend so much time waiting for results, waiting to see what is going to happen next? 

    You ask how do I cope with being scared of dying from this cancer? There is not really an easy answer to that Biggels, but what I can say is try to live with it here, and now. As no one knows what is round the corner, even anyone without cancer could get run over by a bus tomorrow?(Just an example.) I put a piece of paper by my bed when I cant sleep, so I can write down my worries (Sounds stupid, but it does help to release your mind for some people?)

    Get out into nature, go for a walk, go for a coffee, just try to keep yourself busy. I have cried a lot since my first diagnosis 1 year and 9 months ago now, and still do cry. I wear a cap, and sun glasses when I have days that I feel upset. Sitting indoors does not always help, I know as I have done it a lot, not wanting to deal with the world outside. 

    After I was diagnosed with blood cancer, I found out that you can get free Psychiatry with the NHS if you have cancer (May take a few months to start?) That has helped me, although I still can't believe it, and still don't accept it! 

    Just to say Macmillan does have a confidential support line if you need to talk open 7 days a week 8am unitl 8pm. Telephone: 08088080000.

    Also Samaritans are always there anytime day or night FREE: 116 123.

    Thinking of you being so scared, and worrying so much.

    BIG hug sent to you,

    Cathy

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    Thanks I try those things you surgested but at the moment just can not see any point in carring on but I will try those thing and just hope I can shake of this horrible feeling I have .Both my psrents died from cancerr and I saw them suffer so bad I am not going through that 

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    Biggels please call Macmillan today, they are used to hearing us scared of dying.

    I understand where you are at at the moment there is no feeling like it! You need to talk to an experienced person who has knowledge of how to help you with your feelings at the moment. 

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    OK I will do that ,thanjs for caring 

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    Please do Biggels, remember the samaritans are always there too

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    Hi Biggels I saw your post and I couldn't ignore your cries for help after being so scared even before you get your results ,having to wait such a long time when you are so stressed out must be awful ,the thing is no matter what everything is pointing to until you get your full results its all just in your head ,I know you want to prepare yourself for the worst news but it may not be as bad as what you are thinking ,the other thing is even if it is bad news these days there is so much they can do for you ,the treatments for cancer have improved so much over the years and will keep on getting better so please don't give up hope ever ,try to get yourself through to next Tuesday and find out what treatments they have planned for you ,as they will give you the best they have ,try to relax go for a walk in this nice weather talk to friends and family ,also people are always available on here to talk to ,I wish you well .....

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