Hello LisaR1870

I wanted to reply to thank you for your post. It must have been hard for you to write this. I hope that the Cancer Chat community will provide you with a safe space where you can come for support and to talk with others when you need to.  

Although being given such news must be devastating, knowing more about what to expect can help you cope during the difficult times ahead. Our website has information about help and support for people who are dying with cancer, as well as for their carers, friends and relatives.

When people are asked about dying, most say that they want a peaceful and pain-free death. And this is usually possible with the right care and treatment. This can make the thought of death less frightening. Your GP, district nurses and healthcare team all work to control any symptoms you may have and they will try to keep you as comfortable as possible. They might also refer you to a palliative care team for specialist care. Again, we do have more information on our website about managing symptoms when you are dying, but you may wish to give our specialist nurses a ring as they will be able to talk things through with you and answer any specific questions you may have. You can contact them Monday to Friday, 9am to 5pm, on 0800 800 4040. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice and support they can. 

I hope that you and your husband are both being supported by your children and the loved ones around you. Hopefully, over the coming days and weeks, you'll be able to spend time with each other and have the conversations that are important to you both. As well of course as making new happy memories that will sustain you both during difficult moments.

Keep posting here on the forum if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling, ask questions or simply offload - we're here for you Lisa. 

Sending you both all our best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator