Adjusting to a 3/6 month prognosis from cancer

I am struggling terribly with coming to terms with, first being told all was well and I was clear three months ago to now being told the cancer has returned in my pelvis and there is no treatment available, prognosis 3/6 months, if I’m lucky.  I’m so scared, not of dying but how it will happen.  Can I die at home? I am 72, I live alone and have two wonderful sons but I don’t want to burden them any more that I absolutely have to.  I wondering if maybe, I could be looked after till I get quite poorly and then go into a hospice.  I know much will be beyond my control and I know I’m probably worrying unnecessarily but I can’t seem to think about anything else at the moment.  I keep thinking I might be lucky and go quickly but I’ve no symptoms yet.

  • Hi Flobble,

    It would certainly be worth discussing your concerns and questions with your doctor, to help with understanding what options are available. They will be able to advise about things such as hospice care, district nurses, and additional help available.

    If it's something you feel comfortable doing, you could also discuss some of this with your sons. It may help them to understand how you're feeling, but this may not be something you want to do. It is thoughtful to not want to burden them, although they may not see it like that.

    We also have nurses available so you are more than welcome to give them a call if you'd like to speak to someone. You can reach them on freephone 0808 800 4040 - Monday-Friday, 9-5 (also closed 24th, 25th, 26th December and 1st January). Alternatively you can post in the 'Ask the Nurses' section of this forum.

    We are always here for support whenever you need it.

    Best wishes,

    Ben
    Cancer Chat Moderator