Dad doesn’t have long left & I’m struggling

Hi all,

My lovely dad has recently been told he doesn’t have long left due to his cancer and there’s nothing that can be done. I’m so shocked, I didn’t think this would be the outcome. I’m heartbroken.

the anticipatory grief has kicked in, but I go from feeling guilty about not “making the most” of his time here to also being realistic and not wanting to mask my real feelings. 

For now, he’s being treated at home and I hope this continues but I’m so scared. I don’t want to say goodbye. It’s horrible and the toughest thing I’ve ever been through. 

he has been given around 3 months but I know it’s notoriously hard to predict this. I just wish I knew. 

  • A very warm welcome to the forum PinkandYellowWales, although I'm so sorry to hear about your dad and that he doesn't have long left.

    I can't begin to imagine what you and your family must be going through at the moment, but I hope that by joining our community you will find the strength and comfort you need to help you through this very challenging time.

    I know you've said that your anticipatory grief has kicked in so I just wanted to share some information that Marie Curie have about this on their website. I hope you find it useful but if you'd like to talk to one of our cancer nurses about what you're going through, you're very welcome to give them a call on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m. They're very understanding and will do all they can to support you.

    Our thoughts are with you PinkandYellowWales and hopefully some of our members will stop by soon to offer their support and share their experiences and advice.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator