Hi Gemzilou, 

I am so sorry to hear about your dad's lung and bowel cancer diagnosis and it's so sad that his body can no longer take any more chemotherapy and they have given you weeks as timeframe. Inevitably all this will have an impact on your mental health and it's hard sometimes to have to put on that smile and brave face in front of everyone when inside you feel really upset and down. If you feel you are not coping deep inside, make sure you talk to your GP about how you are feeling so that they can help you and advise you. 

It's difficult sometimes to know what to say to children especially given how close they are to their grandad and it must be so hard to know how to explain that he has become more poorly and to find the right words to answer their questions. You will find some good suggestions on our website on talking to children about cancer and we also have a whole section on supporting children when someone is dying. 

You are all going through such a hard time at the moment and it must be truly heart-breaking to know that there isn't long left. I just wanted you to know that we are thinking of you during this emotional time and you are not alone here on the forum as many members of our community have sadly been through something similar before. I hope that they will come and say hello and share their story with you. They may also have some good tips for you on how to talk to children based on their personal stories and experiences. 

Best wishes to you, your dad and your family during this difficult time, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator