Help coping with dads terminal cancer diagnosis

Hello everyone

I’m very sorry to be making this post as it’s a post I never wanted to make. 

My dad has recently been given a terminal cancer, he’s been fighting long cancer and a recurrence for over 10 years now and it’s taken the life right out of him and has left him disabled and very unwell now. 

I genuinely don’t know how to process this news. It’s all very raw and I can’t make sense of my thoughts or emotions and I feel like I’m starting to grieve even though he’s still alive. I am so scared as I’m not even 30 yet and he’s not even reached 60 and I’m not ready to lose him. It’s too soon. He is our rock And I don’t know how we’re Going to cope without him. 

Just typing if people have any words of wisdom or tips on how to cope with This news and process it. I know he has been given a timeframe, but I don’t want to know. 

  • Just want to reach out to say you aren’t alone. I lost my wonderful Dad last April it truly broke my heart - he was 59 and my rock, best friend and really I still can’t believe it’s happened even though we knew it was coming. Nothing can prepare you but it’s important you know you aren’t alone and that you will keep going somehow during and after this - leave no words unsaid and grab every second. After dad died I started writing down moments and memories that came to my mind. Pages of things that make me smile about him and I read it back when I need to remember that his life wasn’t the cancer but was a life he lived and how much of a difference he made to me xxx