Hello CandyPandy

I'm so very sorry to hear about your sister and the situation that you all find yourselves in. Life can indeed be very cruel at times and it sounds like this has been a particularly difficult time for you all. 

It's understandable that you're beginning to wonder how you will all move forward once your sister has died. There is some information on the Cruse website about anticipatory grief that may help you understand that what you're feeling is not an uncommon part of the process of losing a loved one. 

You've mentioned in your post that your sister is in hospice care. Do talk with the staff at the hospice about how you're feeling and the concerns you have around being able to say goodbye and how you will cope as a family afterwards. The hospice team are there to care for your sister but also to offer any support that they can to you as a family and it may be that they have services that you can access to talk with someone about how you're feeling. 

If you'd prefer to talk to one of our nurses you're most welcome to give them a call. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. 

Keep in touch here with us at Cancer Chat if it helps to have a safe space to put down in writing how you're feeling. We're here for you. 

Thinking of you all at this difficult time, 

Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator