Dad has 3 - 6 months left to live. We celebrated my birthday tonight but I just realised this might be the last one we spend together. Can't stop crying

My dad has been given three to six months to live, we just went out for my mine and my sons birthday it’s the same day and ny dads great daughter but I realised this might be the last birthday I spend with him. I can’t stop crying my partner has gone to bed but I just feel like a need of bit of time to myself to take this in. I had to go to to toilet tonight as I started crying and I don’t want him to see me like that. He has enough on his plate x

  • Welcome to the Cancer Chat community Mazza although I'm very sorry to hear about your dad.

    I can't begin to imagine how difficult it must have been to contend with such complex thoughts and emotions when you were celebrating your birthdays but I hope writing things down has helped somewhat.

    So many of our members know how upsetting and heart-breaking it can be to experience anticipatory grief like this, so you are not alone Mazza, and hopefully you will receive some support and advice from them soon.

    If you feel unable to open up to your partner just yet, you're very welcome to give our cancer nurses a call. They are available on 0808 800 4040, Monday - Friday between 9a.m - 5p.m and they will do all they can to support you at this time.

    Be kind to yourself Mazza and remember that we will always be here for you.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator