I am sorry   are you referring to Myeloma in respect of his diagnosis ... 

I don't know he is being very secretive about his diagnosis

I am sorry, sometimes being able to talk about the situation can be helpful although very difficult ...

Bone and blood cancer has main 3 types I believe.. my sista was diagnosed with Myeloma in Oct 2023.. there is a lot of support and information available.. hopefully your brother in law will find the support he needs..

hi. I'm really sorry for you in this situation.....try to bear in mind we are all so very different in the way we deal with things..and after the loss of his wife and son he has probably just lost the will to live.

All my family know that should I have cancer, I will refuse anything other than painkillers.

If that is his decision you just have to respect it, but maybe you can gently explain that if he changes his mind, you will be there for him to help in practical ways.

maybe follow that up with a sympathetic letter enclosing your phone number, and even saying what sort of things you are able to help him with...ie   laundry, housework, hospital visits, shopping and just being there when he needs the company, play scrabble, or cards, tackle a crossword, 

I wish you all the very best. Stay in touch on here, it really is helpful.

hi. I'm really sorry for you in this situation.....try to bear in mind we are all so very different in the way we deal with things..and after the loss of his wife and son he has probably just lost the will to live.

All my family know that should I have cancer, I will refuse anything other than painkillers.

If that is his decision you just have to respect it, but maybe you can gently explain that if he changes his mind, you will be there for him to help in practical ways.

maybe follow that up with a sympathetic letter enclosing your phone number, and even saying what sort of things you are able to help him with...ie   laundry, housework, hospital visits, shopping and just being there when he needs the company, play scrabble, or cards, tackle a crossword, 

I wish you all the very best. Stay in touch on here, it really is helpful.

Think this is in reply to Diandbob post...

sorry yes. Was typing when tired..

No worries..just wanted to let you know..