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My partner is dying end of life

Nicky_noonah123
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Really struggling right now. It’s been 6 years since he was diagnosed and whilst the battle and surgeries and treatments have been tough along the way, knowing he is now weeks/months to live is so hard. We’ve been together 20 years this year. I don’t know how to function, laugh, live, enjoy life without him. We are best friends, soul mates. I just don’t know how I’ll be me without him. 

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    Hello Nicky, I am so sorry for what you are going through.  My story is similar to yours, but from the opposite side.  I am the one who has been fighting this monstrous disease for 6 years and I am now in my final few weeks/months.  My partner and soul mate is absolutely devastated  at the thought of living without me........He is going through exactly what you are going through.  I truly wish I could give you some words of comfort, but in all honesty, what can anyone say that would make you feel better?   My thoughts are with you Nicky, and once again, I am so sorry.  

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    I’m so sorry for you that you are going through this and that your journey is at the final stages too. And I know your partner will feel the same as me for saying, it’s not about us and how we feel, even though it is hurting us so much and we are falling apart inside. We just want to be there for you, but it is breaking us trying to keep strong and see you through it. You and Steve have a different journey and your partner and I have a shared pain right now. Sending you both much love and wishes of strength xx

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    Thank you so much Nicky, and I can tell you that you and Rob (my partner) are facing a tougher and harsher journey than me and your Steve, because very soon, our journeys will be at an end, whereas for folks like you and my Rob, the heartbreak and the grief will come, and at times it will overwhelm you, but like I have said to my partner, I will always be grateful for the years we spent together, and hopefully, it is this enduring and unbreakable Love that that will see you and my Rob through the hardest of days and nights, take care Nicky, xx

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