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Bampa at EOL :(

Tasminlea
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Hi all,

5 years ago I wrote on here asking for support as my Nanny was dying of cancer, I’m now in the same boat again as my beloved bampa is now dying of advanced lung cancer. He wants to travel to his next destination at home, he is home and settled but things are changing so quickly. He’s barely eaten today, and can’t string a sentence of a few words due to being on oxygen 24/7 and struggling terribly with that. He didn’t go to sleep until 3am last night (his son lives with him) and today he fell asleep at 3pm and still sleeping now (9pm). He hasn’t woken at all

how would we know if he will ever wake again or is this it now?

it’s heartbreaking he’s my entire world.

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    Hello. I'm not a nurse or any expert in end of life .but having been with  family members and friends as they went on their next journey they slept and when holding their hand and talking to them there was a slight acknowledgement they knew . So very comforting. Stay with him now and talk to him . Have you spoken to his medical support .

    Sending hugs. Thinking of you xxx

  • Offline in reply to Gareece

    Hi, thank you so much for your message. We have palliative care, district nurses all involved xx I just wondered if he might wake back up and this is just him having a sleep x it’s horrible not knowing if he will ever open his eyes again x

    I am so sorry you’ve been through it too, it’s utterly heartbreaking x

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