Good morning Shifty

I'm so sorry to hear that you are really struggling with the news regarding the diagnosis that you were given earlier last week. I've been reading through some of your other posts before replying to you this morning and I can see that this diagnosis has come as a real shock. Understandably, you're feeling overwhelmed and struggling to take it all in. 

You mentioned in one of your previous posts that you're due to see the Oncologist next week? It sounds positive that this appointment has been arranged to discuss potential options to treat and manage your condition. Do you have someone who can attend the appointment with you for support? We know that for many people waiting to discuss treatment plans can be a worrying time, particularly if you've been told that your diagnosis is incurable. Hopefully, when you see the specialist next week they will be able to give you some clarity on things and some reassurance about what support and help they can offer. 

Shifty, I will say at this point that it really concerns me how low you're feeling at the moment and that you've shared with us that you think you're going to end your life. Please ring your GP surgery this morning and tell them how you're feeling. You've been brave enough to reach out and tell us that you're struggling. I'm certain that your GP surgery will want to help and offer any support they can. They will also be able to tell you about any services available in your local area, such as Maggie's, where you can talk with someone about your diagnosis and how you're feeling. 

If you'd prefer to talk with one of our nurses you are most welcome to call them. I know they will be happy to listen and offer any advice, information, and support they can. They're available Monday to Friday 9am to 5pm on 0808 800 4040. And please also remember, the Samaritans are available on 116 123 (free to call) 24 hours a day, 365 days a year with a listening ear if you want to talk. 

I can see that you've already been able to chat with other forum members who are living with incurable diagnoses. We have several members who have been living with a stage 4 diagnosis, some of them for years. You might want to consider posting in this thread as well. In that thread, some forum members who are living with a stage 4 diagnosis have been connecting with each other over the past few weeks. Hopefully, they will be able to share their experiences with you and offer some advice. 

I know that things may feel helpless and overwhelming at the moment Shifty. Please reach out to those around you for support. Lean on family, friends, and the health professionals who are there to support you. Keep in touch with us here at Cancer Chat. We're here to listen. 

Sending you my best wishes, 
Jenn
Cancer Chat moderator