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My husband died within 3 months of diagnosis of oesophageal cancer

Evey
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I am new to this forum but I finding it very difficult to get through this awful pain of losing my husband.

In October last year he was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer after going into hospital for black poo. 

He started chemo on the 3rd January and although very sick afterwards got through the first night. The second night he had a bad headache and lost the sight in his right eye. I called oncology and they said just keep an eye on it. 

He felt fantastic on the Friday but the Saturday he was feeling awful and on the Sunday morning he had a stroke.

He was rushed to hospital to get some of the clot removed but after 2 weeks in hospital he got aspiration of the lung and then pneumonia which led to sepsis along with covid, he then passed away.

The funeral is next week but I'm crying all the time and dread sorting bills out etc.

Any comfort would be amazing.

  • Hi Evey, 

    I just wanted to offer you a very warm welcome to the forum and to offer you my heartfelt condolences for your loss.

    I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through at the moment but I want you know that you are not alone as we have many members within our community who have also lost a loved one quite quickly and unexpectedly to cancer so they will definitely understand how difficult and painful this must be for you, and I'm sure some of them will stop by soon to offer their support and advice.

    We are here for you Evey and will be in our thoughts next week.

    Kind regards.

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • Offline in reply to Moderator Steph

    Thank you for the warm welcome. Its been over 6 weeks now and cannot seem to get out of bed in the morning. The funeral was really lovely last week but I must admit I didn't have a lot to do with  it as I was still so upset. Anyone have any advice for what the next stages are and how to get through it all. its been 2 months now and was advised not to seek counseling until the 6 months is up.

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