My father in law has terminal stomach cancer and is suffering now and getting fed up, what are you meant to say when he’s calling his son asking him to pray he dies tonight, cancer is so evil.
i don’t know what to say or do to help either of them
I'm sorry about your father in law's diagnosis. I agree cancer is evil and rips lives apart.
My dad was diagnosed with advanced cancer September 2022 and he died two months later. The cancer was in his bones and he was in a great deal of pain. Is your father in law's pain under control? If not this will no doubt make him feel worse. Do you have hospice involved at all? They can offer therapeutic therapies and also assist with pain control and comfort.
It's very difficult to know what to say and it's agonising to watch someone you love deteriorate. In my father's case spending as much time as possible gave him comfort. We didn't get much help from services when caring for dad and it made everything much more upsetting and traumatic.
I think you can only be there to support your husband but don't neglect yourself in the process. It's so upsetting and emotionally draining to care for someone at the end of life. I wish I had something helpful or insightful to say, I don't have the answers, but I empathise with you.
Hi thanks for the reply, he has been in a hospice for almost 3 weeks now and is deteriorating fast. They are controlling his pain as much as possible and has a tube into his stomach to bring up the rubbish rather than vomiting and that’s worked well but now he’s throwing up again and it’s horrific if I’m honest.
I lost my mum to stomach cancer 6 years ago and I hate that we are going through this all again I just feel so lost
I'm really sorry that you lost your mum and you are going through this again. It's incredibly traumatic and will no doubt bring everything about your mums illness back too.
When my dad went into hospice we initially thought he would come home but he didn't come out of the sedation. It's incredibly difficult to have the inevitable prolonged and there is nothing that you can really do go help but be there.
I hope your family has been offered support from hospice too. They should offer support and someone you can speak to. It's a whole other level of stress.
