Hi,

I'm sorry about your father in law's diagnosis. I agree cancer is evil and rips lives apart. 

My dad was diagnosed with advanced cancer September 2022 and he died two months later. The cancer was in his bones and he was in a great deal of pain. Is your father in law's pain under control? If not this will no doubt make him feel worse. Do you have hospice involved at all? They can offer therapeutic therapies and also assist with pain control and comfort. 

It's very difficult to know what to say and it's agonising to watch someone you love deteriorate. In my father's case spending as much time as possible gave him comfort. We didn't get much help from services when caring for dad and it made everything much more upsetting and traumatic. 

I think you can only be there to support your husband but don't neglect yourself in the process. It's so upsetting and emotionally draining to care for someone at the end of life. I wish I had something helpful or insightful to say, I don't have the answers, but I empathise with you. 

Sending best wishes. 

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Hi,

I'm sorry about your father in law's diagnosis. I agree cancer is evil and rips lives apart. 

My dad was diagnosed with advanced cancer September 2022 and he died two months later. The cancer was in his bones and he was in a great deal of pain. Is your father in law's pain under control? If not this will no doubt make him feel worse. Do you have hospice involved at all? They can offer therapeutic therapies and also assist with pain control and comfort. 

It's very difficult to know what to say and it's agonising to watch someone you love deteriorate. In my father's case spending as much time as possible gave him comfort. We didn't get much help from services when caring for dad and it made everything much more upsetting and traumatic. 

I think you can only be there to support your husband but don't neglect yourself in the process. It's so upsetting and emotionally draining to care for someone at the end of life. I wish I had something helpful or insightful to say, I don't have the answers, but I empathise with you. 

Sending best wishes. 

X