Hi I found out around 6 month's ago my dad had lung cancer and there was nothing they could do for him as he has copd aswell and therfore wasn't offered any treatment I'm the youngest of 4 siblings but I also lost my oldest brother at 36 from pancreatic cancer I'm just finding it had to watch my dad he's at his final stages and I just don't know what to do I feel so helpless watching him suffer knowing there's nothing I can do for him I sometimes try not to go and  visit because I find it so hard to c him but then I would feel bad if I haven't seen him as I know he doesn't have long left also my mother is in a wheelchair so isn't able to help my dad they way she wants to so I feel bad for her aswell it's just so hard to cope with it all I just don't k ow what to do anymore