My mums dying of a brain tumour she’s 48 years old and is the most amazing woman. Since my mum got diagnosed march last year I’ve watched her loose everything and also watching her go through 2 different types of chemo and radiotherapy and multiple surgeries but nothing will stop the tumour it’s so aggressive. She’s lost the use of her legs now and one arm, one arm still works just about, she’s almost blind, can see a tiny bit out of one eye and her speech is almost gone. My mum was a fit and healthy woman who worked hard. My mum got given 6 weeks to live about 14 weeks ago now and I’m just watching her deteriorate whilst she’s still trying to fight because I know she’s in there I see it in her eyes.
Im 25 years old and I know my mum better than anyone. I’ve stopped working to care for mum I live with a brother and dad but they’re not nice to me they don’t care about me at all and the way my dad treats my mum is disgusting and my brother barely makes any time for her which breaks my heart even more because my mum done everything for my dad and brother and their not there for her. My dad is a selfish man it’s always got to be about him and he thinks he always knows best he is so lazy. He pretends he’s sick and has all these problems going on and spends his life laying on the sofa like a piece of mould barking orders and talking to anyone apart from work calls disgustingly. I don’t have any support of either of them, my brother doesn’t even actually talk to me and I don’t know why. My dad talks and treats me like some poo on the bottom of your shoe. I don’t know what I’ve done wrong to be treated like this. I don’t really have friends I just have an amazing boyfriend that I love so much. My boyfriend and my mum is all I got. My dad constantly snaps at me no matter what I do. Even when I have to leave the house to do things that I need to do I get snapped at but my brother is allowed to come and go however he pleases. Sometimes I’m awake for days at a time because I looking after mum because my dad and brother seem oblivious to me and just go out and do whatever they want.
My mum can’t do anything for herself anymore. She can’t walk can barely talk or see properly. My dad acts like caring for my mum is a chore. All family friends are aware of this situation but can’t do anything otherwise my dad will cut off communication from anyone who says their opinion or disagrees with him. So everyone just keeps their mouths shut but they are so disgusted and just can’t believe/ understand my dad and brothers behaviours. I know when my mum passes a lot of people will have plenty to say to him. He’s even stopped my mums best friend from seeing her because mums friend told him a few words about certain people’s behaviours at this disgustingly horrible time.
Honestly my life is pure hell. My mum is my world and is such an amazing woman I wish I could take her brain tumour away and make her back to her normal healthy self. My world is crumbling I’ve never felt so alone in my life. When my mum passes away I don’t know where I’m going to live, I have no money I have no one I can truly rely on for help apart from my boyfriend. I’m really on my own when the time comes when my mumma isn’t here. I’m starting to struggle to cope, I wish my mum could live her final days surrounded by her friends and happiness rather than my dad only allowing visitors here and there whilst he’s constantly moaning/ telling lies and just being the pure opposite of what happy and nice is.
My dad and brother tried to push for my mum to be taken into a hospice a few weeks ago which thankfully failed. My mums wish is to be at home but my dad doesn’t care. My dads making this so much harder. Life is hell. Im so heartbroken for my mum I can’t believe everything is the way it is. It’s almost like my dad hates my mum cause my mum can’t cook and clean for him no more. My heart breaks over and over a million times a day being in this situation being totally helpless but I’m trying my best to look after my mum. In the whole time mums been sick my dad has taken her out properly only once.
I can’t believe what I have to deal with on a daily basis I don’t know how much more of this I can take but I keep going because I’m doing it for my mum and I just want to make her proud. Im trying not to let all the belittling from my dad/brother get to me. I hate my dad and hate my brother. Surely you’d think a situation involving cancer would bring a family together but it’s pushed us beyond apart. Does anyone else have a similar situation to this and if so how are you dealing with it, cause this is just *** mad.
