Mom has terminal ovarian cancer

My mom was diagnosed with ovarian cancer nearly 12 Months ago.  I genuinely thought we could fight it and all would be ok.  But after chemotherapy, a huge operation that took her spleen ovaries and part of her bowel and left her with a colostomy bag there is nothing more they can do.

They have said the cancer is just too aggressive and back in May we were told she would deteriorate over the next 6 weeks and they were right.  Her ankles, legs and thighs are full of fluid she is struggling to walk around, her appetite is very poor and just so tired and exhausted all the time.

it’s horrible watching and not knowing what to do and watching your mom struggling with simple tasks and knowing it isn’t going to get better.

i just can’t cope watching and waiting it’s horrible and I’m struggling to cope with it.

  • Hello Jamb77, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum. It's so sad to be told that there is nothing they can do now and it is bound to make everyone who loves your mum feel so powerless. It must be hard to watch her deteriorate so quickly and feeling that there isn't anything you can do to stop this. I am sure we have so many other members in our forum who have felt this way and I hope that they will have some comforting words for you and some advice based on their personal experiences. 

    You might be interested in reading our information for family, friends and caregivers which has some valuable tips to help you support a loved one with cancer but also take care of yourself and your own emotional wellbeing during this extremely difficult time. 

    We're thinking of you, your mum and your family during these tough moments and wanted you to know that the forum is always there to listen whenever you need to reach out to others here.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator