I found out today that my dad has terminal oesophageal cancer that has spread to his stomach and other areas. They said that it’s aggressive and inoperable. He has been told he has months not years but I still don’t know how long that means. It has come as a complete shock with next to no symptoms he is super fit and has never smoked or had any health issues.
I am 25 and don’t live at home I feel completely helpless and heartbroken. I want to be around for as much time we have left but I don’t want to make him sad by how heartbroken I am about it. I can’t imagine my life without my dad that he won’t be at my wedding or be a grandfather if I have children.
I genuinely don’t know how to be strong in this situation. I don’t know if I should move back home or not start my new job. I don’t know how best to support him and my family especially my mum who has just retired with him to do all these amazing things together they had been waiting forty years for. It feels so completely unfair and I have no idea how to begin to face it.