Hello Jac2358, 

I am so sorry to hear about your dad's bowel cancer diagnosis and that they have sadly decided they cannot operate or give him treatment. It's completely understandable that you are feeling lost and I hope that your good friends are being supportive at the moment. It's really difficult to cope in challenging times like this and I hope that you will find reading our information for Family, Friends and Caregivers  useful. It contains information to help you support a loved one with cancer but also to make sure you take care of yourself which isn't always easy to do. 

Other members of our forum will have also supported a loved one through advanced cancer and will hopefully have some good suggestions for you based on their personal experiences. I hope that they will be along shortly to share their story with you. 

We're thinking of you and your dad during this difficult time. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

Hi, I have recently lost my mum to brain cancer, she was diagnosed and died within 6 weeks, at the time I just got on and helped on any way I could it’s only recently started to hit me. There’s no easy way to get through this, it’s awful and you don’t know what to do it which way to turn, you need to be strong for your dad but need to get help from Other people by being able to talk about your feelings, also make time for yourself and don’t feel guilty when you need time out 

I'm so sorry Jac

My dad just got a terminal diagnosis after having a huge operation we thought would save him. To know there is nothing to do but pain management really does sting doesn't it! 

I don't really know what advice to give I just wanted you to know your not alone. I've not spoken to anyone about my dads diagnosis yet, have you?

Loosing a parent is monumental in a person's life and I suppose we are just sat on the precipice waiting ...

I hope you find the answers you need and wish you and your family all the best x