My mum is dying - what can we do with the time that's left?

We got news that my mum's cancer had returned (and spread to the liver) about a month ago. A week or two later, we were told it was terminal and she has 2-9 months to live.

I'm glad to have the warning, but the wait is horrible. Every day, I wonder if today is the day. And I don't know what to do with the time. I want to make memories for me and her, but she gets so tired quickly so what we can do is limited. Taking her out for lunch just seems such a small, insignificant and ungrateful to do for the woman who gave me life and who means so much to me. But I don't know what to to. 

I thought I had so much time - she was supposed to see me graduate university, get married and have children. And that time was supposed to be easy and light. Now every day is heavy.

I cry every day. And it feels like it will never end. I don't know how I'm going to live my life.

What should I do with the time we have left? And how do I cope after?

  • I just wanted to send a big hug to you ️ I'm so sorry you are going through this!  What about organising a photoshoot together for some lasting memories? Put a memory book or box together to look through together to reminisce or laugh at old memories. Just being with her and there for her will be enough I'm sure,  but how about watching a favourite film or TV series together, cinema, drive to the seaside and sit in the car and eat fish and chips by the sea? She will know how much she means and won't need any thanks for that I'm sure so go easy on yourself too! Look after you as well x take care xx