Struggling with my Dad’s terminal cancer

It's been four years since he was diagnosed and he's changed so much in the last month or so. He's just in a bed, he has to be spoon fed and has carers come twice a day. It's so hard for me to see him like that, I feel like how he used to be is just a memory now. I just wish I could turn back time and appreciate everything more, I hate it and it's not fair. I have been visiting him every day, it's hard trying to keep it together sometimes.  

  • Hi Fayetta, 

    I just came across your post and wanted to offer you a very warm welcome to Cancer Chat although I'm very sorry to hear about your dad.

    I can't even begin to imagine how difficult it's been to see your dad change over the last 4 years, even more so within the last couple of months, but I'm glad you've joined us as so many of our members have sadly been in this position with their loved ones as well so you are not alone with this struggle Fayetta and I'm sure you will receive a lot of support and advice from the community soon.

    We're here for you and really do understand how hard this is for you right now.

    Kind regards,

    Steph, Cancer Chat Moderator

  • my dad was properly diagnosed 13 years ago (wrongly diagnosed before). he is still here now... but hes in his final moments. the last 3 months hes hasnt been able to get out of bed. which is a nightmare for him. i also wish id appreciated him more and done more with him.. visited today and he cant even talk... but he could see and hear me... i think, it is sort of comforting knowing other people are going through hell too.