Struggling to cope with Dad dying

Dad has fought cancer for years, he was admitted to hospital just over a month ago as he struggled to fight pneumonia. After weeks of trying IV antibiotics, no improvement was seen. Dad became confused and began hallucinating and was transferred to the hospice on Sunday. My heart is breaking as he was just not ready for this, he wanted another year. He is also experiencing terminal agitation which has been highly distressing particularly for my Mum. My emotions are all over the place. It is the hardest thing to watch him get weaker and more drowsy. He picks at the bed sheets and his clothing. I already miss him so much and feel like the grieving has already started. I never ever thought it would be this difficult. 

  • Hi Redroo

    I'm so sorry to hear about your dad. My dad was fit and healthy only 2 months ago before he had a stroke caused my brain tumours. I feel like I'm on the back end of conveyor belt waiting to go through what so many of you are though now.

    Do you have McMillan nurses you can speak to? The hospice is the safest possible place for your dad. Atleast you can sleep better knowing he is recieving professional care. I cant imagine how hard this must be for you and your poor mum. Support each other and make sure you find time for yourself. It's so important, you need to be strong for you dad. Wish I could give you a big hug.

     

    Take care

    April