Hi All
My dad was diagnoised with Secondary Brain cancer 6 weeks ago. It caused a stroke and he is currently wheelchair bound but has made amazing progress since it all happened. He was told he had 3-6 months. He was then told that he could recieve immune therapy, which i know from googling doesnt give you a great deal longer (buts its something of course).
My dad has always been the optamist and picks what he wants to hear out of conversations. Hes talking about the future, about driving again and getting a dog and doing up the house next year. I know what you are thinking, he is putting on a front or denying what he knows inside. But i know my dad, and i know he is convinced it will be ok.
We had a conversation the other day and i did explain that the cancer wasnt curable, but i think perhaps he thinks that the immune therapy could give him years.
My thought process is that ignorance is bliss. He sleeps easy, he does his home physio work outs every day and he always looking forward. I dont think its fair to deny him that, and if it was me, i would rather be blissfully unaware aswell.
My worries are 3 things:
1. If someone comes along and puts it bluntly, will it hit him harder and
2. I keep suggeting lovely things we can do (like have a big birthday or go watch sunrise) but hes sort of waiting to get better first.
3. Important things to concider like PoA and all those other hard conversations
I hate that we are on different pages, but how can i take away his determination and general good spirit? I havent hidden anything from him, i was told exactly what he was told its just we have absorted it differently.
Our Mcmillan nurse doesnt seem to worried about it. But i feel like the world knows what he doesnt. I was wondering if anyone else had had similar experiences they could share and how they dealt with them please?
A x
