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I'm feeling so lost, I don't know how I will cope when my mum passes. Feels like she has deteriorated a lot ......I want tot think it's the medication but I think it's more the illness, she's sleepy all day, a little confused, can hardly stand up, it's heart breaki got see. I hate this. Family members come and see mum, they don't feel my pain, I feel so alone. I will miss my mum sooooo much. Urgh. My mum has been telling some family to look out for me when she's gone. 
 

I can't believe this illness's will now take my mum after taking my dad!! So cruel. When my dad died I still had my mum, and I was always looking g after her as she was me. 

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    Hello Lovemydad, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your mum, that she has deteriorated a lot recently. It sounds like you are feeling really alone at the moment and I hope that you have some family support around you to help you cope in the coming days and weeks, 

    It's so sad that this is all happening after you also lost your dad. I just wanted you to know that you have come to the right place to talk to others who have been in a similar place and I hope that you will hear from other members of the forum who understand what you are going through at the moment and that they will share their personal stories with you. 

    We're thinking of you during this difficult time. 

    Best wishes to you and your mum, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

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    I know how you feel . My daughter of 33 is just entered paliative care at home . I'm now a full time mum again with her 2 and 5 year old daughter's, I really don't know how I'm going to deal with the weeks ahead ....scared

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    Sorry you are going through this with your daughter.

     

    I am exhausted and sad and mixed emotions, just come home after being with my mum. Always feel sad when I come back home, but need some rest. It's sooo tough right now, I can't imagine how I will get through when she passes. 
     

    sending you love & strength xx be kind to yourself too 

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    Really feel for you having already lost your dad. Cancer is so so cruel.

    Im going through similar to what you're going through, my 53 year old mum has just been diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer, she's deteriorated so much over the last 3 weeks and it's such a shock, I thought we'd have easily another 20 years together and I'm devastated. 

    It's good you have family around you and your mum is asking them to look after you. It's just such a tough time.

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    I am so sorry to read both these posts. My Dad has also deteriorated quickly and is very confused and sleepy. It is heartbreaking. Thinking of you both

  • Offline in reply to Redroo84

    It really is heartbreaking. Today I was seeing my mum stronger and felt like she could be here for months, but the reality is the deterioration can be very quick.  Just doing our best to keep as comfortable as she can be at home, not easy though! Every day sometimes new to contend with. 

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    So yesterday we moved  mum from the the recliner where she'd be sleeping n sitting to the bed the hospice bed @ home. She wore pull-ups. She wants to now go to the hospice as finds it's too tough at home. We will respect whatever her wishes. Feel very sad this morning. 
     

    im really treasuring every second with her and love every smile she gives. Just sitting holding her hand. So so tough all of this.

    I hate people telling me to be strong 

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