Loss - I don't understand why fiance's family have done this

My Fiance of 7 years, vegetarian, non smoker, passed on 13th March, she was at home with her Mother and sister as I work and was unable to offer the 24/7.

On the 20th the brothers girlfriend told me Viv was on the mend?

On the 23rd the Family buried her without my knowledge

On the 24th the brother told me Viv had passed.

HE RAN OUT OF MY HOUSE.

What i wanted to say was Viv and Me loved one another deeply, she is my wife, i always called her wife and she called me Husband.

I could easily lose the plot, go mad angry, scream shout, I'm doing that behind closed doors, but not a word to Vivs family.

i want with all my heart and soul to get back to Viv, if i let my emotions rule my head, two wrongs will nto make a right.

God has the final say, so in my prayers and heart i pray for my wife, I know she wanted me close, i know she misses me and i know one day, in eternity we will be back together.  I dont know if forgiveness is the right word but i have prayed that whatever made her family act this way, i hope and pray they can live with themselves.

Friends, all of us, will get our loved ones back in eternity, all of us.

JOHN LIVERPOOL ENGLAND

  • Hello SonofaPreacherMan, 

    A warm welcome to Cancer Chat. I am so sorry for your loss and for what happened with her family - what matters really at the end of the day is that you loved one another deeply and that love will stay on with you in your heart and through the memories you had together. 

    I have just responded to another member of the forum [@Leigh60]‍ who also lost her soulmate and who also mentioned having had to deal with difficult family issues so I think you two would have a lot to say to one another. You can read [@Leigh60]‍ 's thread on this page and feel free to respond if you wish. Hopefully you will hear from other members of our forum who will have experienced something like this before and they will be along shortly to share their story with you.

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator