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My mother has been told she has 2 months to live.

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My mum has 2 months to live and it's absolutely destroyed me she is all I have family wise. And iv cared for her in the past and now. She is in a hospice right now but chooses to die at home. I will be there 100% all the way. I want to keep her happy and comfortable for as long as I have her left. She is my world and its falling apart. We are so close and this is really really shocked us both. Is there any advice for caring for someone that is close and are dying. I want to know I'm doing things right for her. She's had such a horrible life and now for things to start looking up for her this has now happened. She has gallbladder cancer which spread to liver and lungs. I see her fading away everytime I see her which is everyday and I do not want her to go alone. I would like to be by her side. Even though I know this will be very difficult I'm all she has and she's all I have. I have 2 children who are my world and I'm trying to stay strong for them. My heart is bleeding.... any advice would be appreciated. Thank You. 

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    Hello, and I just want to say how sorry I am that you are going through this.  I cared for my mum when she was dying of cancer, and just like your mum, her life had been horrible, and just as things were starting to look up, we found out she was dying.  I truly have walked in your shoes.  If there is one piece of advice I can give you, it is this:  Tell your mum how much you love her and how she means the world to you.  My mum died 25 years ago and I have always regretted that I never told her how much I loved her when she was dying...........it is too late to say it when they are gone.  Tell her everything that is in your heart.  I have said this so many times to so many people over the years, but to lose our mother is one of the hardest things we ever go  through.......it is absolutely devastating, and it leaves a hole in your life that no-one else can fill, but you get through it, bit by bit, day by day.  You don't get over it .........you get through it.  Take care, and once again, so sorry for what you are going through, Violet, x

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    Hello, and I just want to say how sorry I am that you are going through this.  I cared for my mum when she was dying of cancer, and just like your mum, her life had been horrible, and just as things were starting to look up, we found out she was dying.  I truly have walked in your shoes.  If there is one piece of advice I can give you, it is this:  Tell your mum how much you love her and how she means the world to you.  My mum died 25 years ago and I have always regretted that I never told her how much I loved her when she was dying...........it is too late to say it when they are gone.  Tell her everything that is in your heart.  I have said this so many times to so many people over the years, but to lose our mother is one of the hardest things we ever go  through.......it is absolutely devastating, and it leaves a hole in your life that no-one else can fill, but you get through it, bit by bit, day by day.  You don't get over it .........you get through it.  Take care, and once again, so sorry for what you are going through, Violet, x

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