Been told my mum is in the End stages. I'm devastated

Hello all, never thought I would be part of this community posting about my mum diagnosis, she was diagnosed in 2020 with colorectal cancer stage IV that has spread to other body parts limph node and liver and has been on treatment for roughly 14months the consultants are now saying that the chemo treatments isn't effective no more as the cancer is aggressive and her liver will soon fail, my mum had also developed a blood clot in the liver she was on injection and had to be taken off as the injection was causing her excessive bleed from her back passage. She also has developed jaundice in her eyes Doctors have given her few days to weeks to live, this is just devastating to see her in this state my mum is only 52 years of age and unfortunately cancer it's slowing her body down. She is a fighter and still believes that she will fight It through. How can you look at such a precious soul and tell her she will soon be no more??. We r keeping to what she believes and taking each day as it comes. Me and my sisters have decided to care for her ourselves in the comfort of her own home. It just devastating that her situation isn't reversible. 

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  • So sorry to hear your news. We lost my Mum 4 weeks ago after a 2 year battle with pancreatic cancer. You cling on to the hope that she will survive longer, and then think you are ready for when the end comes. But nothing will prepare you for when the end does come. Initially I was relieved she was out of her pain but then all of the emotions set in, like guilt, regret, anger, sadness and numbness. I can't get over the fact that she had so much more to give (she was 71), but at the same time we were so lucky to have this special person in our lives who made us what we are. We had the funeral yesterday, it was a lovely send off but then afterwards the sadness and longing sets in again. It's a long road but I'm hoping I will soon start to have done days when I'm not constantly sad. Tell your Mum that you love her so much and the things that you are so thankful for - I said this to mum a few days before she passed and it helped me to know that she knew this. All the best xxx

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  • So sorry to hear your news. We lost my Mum 4 weeks ago after a 2 year battle with pancreatic cancer. You cling on to the hope that she will survive longer, and then think you are ready for when the end comes. But nothing will prepare you for when the end does come. Initially I was relieved she was out of her pain but then all of the emotions set in, like guilt, regret, anger, sadness and numbness. I can't get over the fact that she had so much more to give (she was 71), but at the same time we were so lucky to have this special person in our lives who made us what we are. We had the funeral yesterday, it was a lovely send off but then afterwards the sadness and longing sets in again. It's a long road but I'm hoping I will soon start to have done days when I'm not constantly sad. Tell your Mum that you love her so much and the things that you are so thankful for - I said this to mum a few days before she passed and it helped me to know that she knew this. All the best xxx

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