Hello Sparklingwaters, 

A warm welcome to our forum and thank you for sharing your moving story. I am so sorry to hear that nothing has happened in terms of treatment and that surgery is not an option and his short-term memory has been impacted. How awful that he cannot remember his diagnosis and he has to be told about his diagnosis repeatedly - how traumatic this must be for him and how heartbreaking this is for you too. 

I think all you can do for now is carry on being supportive as you have been. I can imagine it is incredibly hard to talk about your children and what you want for them if he cannot remember his diagnosis. It's really difficult to know what to do in a situation like this. Perhaps you could give our cancer nurses a call on this free number 0808 800 4040 and talk things through with them? Their line is open Monday to Friday from 9am to 5pm (but closed this bank holiday Monday)

I hope that you will also hear from other members of our forum who have been in a similar situation before, who have perhaps supported a loved one with a similar diagnosis and that they will be along soon to share their story with you. 

Best wishes, 

Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator