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When is the end? Mum now sleeping more and hardly speaking

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Hi

I have been nursing my mum at home for the last 3 weeks but in the last few days she has deteriorated from being weight bearing getting in out of bed to use the commode to now sleeping all the time with the occasional few verbal words. She isn't drinking but has the occasional sips of water

she has a syringe driver and was catheterised for comfort yesterday but she's having a lot of breakthrough pain so the driver is being increased today.

I Feel so sad and to be honest guilty as I don't want this to go on as she is so uncomfortable when I move her

is the end near ?

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    Hi, and first of all let me say how sorry I am for what you are going through.  I also nursed my mother in her last days of cancer and to answer your question, yes, your mum's time is near.  Please try not to feel guilty that you want your mother's discomfort to come to an end, because I felt exactly the same way about my mum.........on the one hand, I did not want to lose her, but on the other hand, I did not want her to suffer any more.  It takes an incredible amount of Love when you are prepared to put aside your own feelings of wanting your Mum to remain with you, and instead feel that you would rather release her knowing that she will be free and at peace.  Your Mother is about to go on a journey, and you can take comfort in the fact that you have been there for her when she needed you the most.  xx

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    Hi, and first of all let me say how sorry I am for what you are going through.  I also nursed my mother in her last days of cancer and to answer your question, yes, your mum's time is near.  Please try not to feel guilty that you want your mother's discomfort to come to an end, because I felt exactly the same way about my mum.........on the one hand, I did not want to lose her, but on the other hand, I did not want her to suffer any more.  It takes an incredible amount of Love when you are prepared to put aside your own feelings of wanting your Mum to remain with you, and instead feel that you would rather release her knowing that she will be free and at peace.  Your Mother is about to go on a journey, and you can take comfort in the fact that you have been there for her when she needed you the most.  xx

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