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hey - my dad just found out he has liver cancer

aimelkin97
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Hey, 

Me and my family found out on Friday my dad has had a liver tumour that is growing and gradually getting worse they said he hasn't got long. He was perfect before Christmas, he was fit as a fiddle although on the odd occasion he would be really unwell and now it makes sense. Me and my dad are really close almost like best friends, and I don't really see my life without him I live with him just me and him, and he's changed so much in the past few weeks, not eating sleepy swollen feet and his whole complexion. 
 

I've read a few of peoples stories on here and I can relate so much. My anxiety of loosing my dad is awful, I cry everyday & before bed. I drink a lot more because it's the only thing that helps. I'm so scared I don't want to watch him go. 
 

if anyone has any advice? Been through the same thing? My heart feels like it's been ripped out my chest, I've always been a daddy's girl and I feel like I'm grieving and he's still here. He really is my rock, I'm only 24 with no kids and it hurts to know he'll never see me or my twin brother grow up. My life just feels pointless at the moment I'm absolutely dreading not having him beside me through life. 

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    Hello aimelkin97, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your dad's diagnosis. It's so sad that he was so well before Christmas and has deteriorated so much in the last few weeks. You seem to be very close to your dad and as you are living with him every day, it can be distressing to see him get progressively worse and to find that he is not eating or sleeping properly. 

    I hope that you will hear from other members of our forum who have been through this before and that they will be along shortly to share their experience with you. This feeling of grieving while your father is still there is something that many of our members will be able to relate to as well. I hope that reading stories on our forum  has brought you a little comfort. It helps to know that you are not alone, that many here will understand how you are feeling at the moment. 

    You mentioned that your anxiety of losing your dad has made you drink a lot more. It may feel like this is the only thing that helps you at the moment but it's definitely not a solution and it may in the long term make you feel worse. Do talk to your GP if you feel you've been drinking a bit too much recently and mention how low you've been feeling recently. Your doctor will I am sure have the right strategies to help you cope during this tough emotional time. 

    I thought I would also share with you our information for family, friends and caregivers  which will tell you more about how best to support a loved one with cancer but also contains valuable tips to help you take care of yourself too. 

    I know it's really hard for you at the moment not to imagine the worst as you are living with this constant fear that one day he will no longer be there, but try if you can to take one day at a time and to enjoy the moments you share together. These beautiful memories that you create even during these really tough times will be with you forever.

    We're thinking of you during these challenging times and I wanted you to know that we are all here for you anytime you need to offload and talk to others who know exactly what you are going through. 

    Best wishes, 

    Lucie, Cancer Chat Moderator

     

     

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