My mother in law is dying of secondary breast cancer in a hospice. She had to go to the hospice last week as my father in law was struggling to cope. She always said she wanted to be at home. However that's the only thing she did say. She never wanted to talk about death, funeral plans, wills, what would happen...... anything. She just said I dont want to think about it. The problem with that is it leaves us (as my husband is an only child) in the position of not knowing what to do. My father in law is struggling to care for himself let alone his wife. I believe the best care will be given in a hospice but my worry is that because of Covid the closest people to her will not be able to see her in her last days, hours. We are nearly reaching that point now as the syringe drive has been administered, we have been asked to think about home or hospice. My mother in law is very close with her siblings and it's hard to know what to do coz they will want to be with her but so will her husband and her son, my partner. I want to be there for my husband as I know it's gonna hit him very hard and she was a huge part of my life. Where to you draw the line at who should be there and who not, when you have had no guidance from her on what she wishes to do or happened?
